• April Avey Trabucco

Keep Calm and Carry On (but communicate first)

Updated: Dec 15, 2021


Two common themes running through Raising Resilience sessions are Calm is Contagious and Communication is Key.


These directives sound simple enough - model calm and communicate effectively, and all will be well. However, after nearly two years of navigating a pandemic, mounting social justice issues, and escalating climate emergencies, accessing calm while finding effective ways to communicate is getting harder.


Even before the pandemic parents faced unprecedented challenges and according to Pew Research, “two-thirds of parents in the U.S. say parenting is harder today than it was 20 years ago.” Much of this is attributed to social media and screen time.


Just this month the U.S. Surgeon General, Vivek H. Murthy, reported that depression and anxiety doubled during the pandemic.


We were seeing signs of a youth mental health crisis even before Coronavirus hit, but the pandemic forced youth to pass formative years and milestones in isolation, during a time when healthy in-person outlets were replace by increased screen time.


Now that most kids are back on campus, we're unpacking the impact of all that isolation and screen time and parents seeking help are finding a shortage of mental health professionals with availability.


While the statistics are staggering, the prognosis is hopeful. Murthy said, “Mental health challenges in children, adolescents, and young adults are real, and they are widespread. But most importantly, they are treatable, and often preventable.”


There is work to be done regarding digital citizenship and there is work to be done on how we foster resilience in ourselves and our children as we navigate these challenges.


In order to help our children, we need to equip ourselves and that often requires reflecting on our own state of well-being.

In a recent session on Body Image and Disordered Eating, Emily Bell, CN, said “we have to do our own work as parents before we can support our children when they’re struggling.”

Taking that notion further, fellow parent and Bainbridge Youth Services counselor, Helen Burke, said “to be a safe harbor, you need a safe harbor.” We’ve heard these sentiments echoed through multiple sessions covering a variety of topics.


Parents, who/what/where is your safe harbor? We hope you’ll consider Raising Resilience part of your safe harbor team. We’ll be back in the new year with new topics, but until we are able to gather again online and in person, we are sharing book recommendations from former Raising Resilience featured speakers and links to recordings of past sessions to help you find and model calm and have effective conversations with your children regarding tough topics.


In addition to the following list, you can find 20+ videos of past sessions covering a variety of topics from positive parenting and executive functioning skills to screen time, mental health, substance abuse, and healthy sexuality in our free video library @ https://www.raisingresilience.org/local-speaker-series

It’s basically ‘on demand’ Parent Coaching with local experts and providers - when you need it most!


CALM IS CONTAGIOUS


BOOKS:

Getting to Calm, the Early Years: Cool-Headed Strategies for Raising Caring, Happy, and Independent 3-7 Year Olds

Getting to Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens + Teens


CONNECTIONS CAFÉ (recorded sessions):

Executive Functioning Skills w/ The Guidance Team

>>>Session Take Away: "Regulation is not about getting rid of an uncomfortable feeling. It is the ability to be WITH an uncomfortable feeling and still be OK." - Marcee Ben-Menachem, M.Ed., NBCT, LMHCA


Mindful Parenting Through Crisis

>>>Session Take Away: "A coping superpower is being able to SEE but not BE so that we can create space and increase our ability to sit in the unknown." - Jendi Watson, CHT


COMMUNICATION IS KEY


BOOKS:

What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home

Parenting in the Screen Age: A Guide for Calm Conversations


CONNECTIONS CAFÉ (recorded sessions w/ role play conversations):

Substance Abuse Prevention Panel 2021

>>>Session Take Away: "Keep the conversation going - talking to your teen about substance abuse should be a process, not a single event. Let them know your conversation is an open-ended one, and that it’s a two-way street." - Aubrey Lough, SUDP, LMFT

Sexual Assault Awareness

>>>Session Take Away: "Ask our kids about their knowledge and experiences - use media, current events to spark conversations; provide resources. LISTEN." - Helen Burke, LMHCA


Keep Calm and Carry On (but communicate first ;->). We hope to see you at future sessions. - Your Raising Resilience Team

53 views1 comment